It’s unbelievable – and at the same time totally believable – to me that we’ve been married 5 years today. It’s funny because while the last five years have flown by, it’s hard to even imagine a life before this was our family.
Mr. B, you’re as much my best friend today as you were the day we got married. It’s cliche but so true that I fall deeper in love with you everyday – as I watch you so gracefully balance work and school and home life and philanthropy. When our children light up when you walk through the door at night. When we have a few minutes to ourselves in a day and are capable of talking about things other than our children. I got lucky finding you, Mr. B.
I often think back to my choice to join a sorority – I was such a good girl in high school. I didn’t party. I was busy with sports and school and my idea of a good time was watching Trading Spaces with my mom and the Emilys on a Saturday night. I was so far from the kind of girl who would ever consider rushing at a party school like CU. But somehow, I found myself in a rush group. Joining one of the bigger party houses on campus. Making new friends, learning that watching decorating shows isn’t the only fun way to spend a Saturday night, and being true to who I was while learning that there are other ways to do things. And then, one year later, moving into the sorority house with all my girlfriends, I can guarantee the idea that I would marry one of the crazy Lambda Chi boys next door was not even on the radar. And yet, here we are. Divine intervention – it’s the only explanation.
Baby Mr. B and Emily – 2005
Parents of 2 Mr. B and Emily 2012
Mr. B, life with you is always an adventure. We’re so alike in ways that matter so much. Financially, we’re on the same page. Family values? Check. Making choices that allow work/life balance over bigger paychecks? Absolutely. And we’re so different in ways that matter so much, too – encouraging each other to try new things and see problems and the world differently. I always joke that Mr. B is the level headed one – the story of my labor and delivery with Thomas is pretty much the perfect summary of that aspect of our relationship – me being set in my ways about the way things SHOULD be and Mr. B gently guiding me to understanding that I don’t get to call all the shots in life and some things are out of my control, while still championing me and advocating for me as much as is reasonable. That whole reasonable thing, Mr. B gets it. But the truth is that we balance each other out. I get riled up more easily than he does, but when he really gets upset about something, I’m usually able to step back and be the calming influence. My English and Communication degrees pair nicely with his Engineering and Business degrees – we balance each other out, stretch each other to learn new ways of doing things, and compensate for the others weaknesses. We’re an excellent team.
We’ve done a lot in five years – traveled all over the country, to Jamaica and to Italy, weathered a bad economy with job losses and changes, learned to live frugally and well within our means to provide for our family and future goals, had two children (plus our pre-marriage baby, Casco), cheered each other on in career milestones, and most recently moved. I’m pretty sure neither one of us thought we’d be a family of four at our 5 year anniversary mark. But I wouldn’t change our family’s timeline for the world. It’s been a wild ride at times, one that shows us over and over again that God has a plan for our family. I’m so thankful that Mr. B is the person I get to buckle up and ride the roller coaster with. And I’m so thankful that Mr. B is the man that Thomas will learn to be a husband and a father from. That Mr. B’s kindness, love and generosity – not to mention intelligence, street smarts and business savvy – are qualities that Nell will look for in a future husband. That our children have the privilege of growing up in a loving home, with two parents who would do anything in the world for them and for each other. It’s been the best 5 years of my life, Mr. B. Thanks for holding my hand through thick and thin. Can’t wait to see what we accomplish in the next 5.